These are three separate techniques for making decisions. It’s good to do all three. These tools connect you with you inner voice, with your unconscious wisdom.
Don't expect them necessarily to support your logical-mind, left-brain voice - the voice that says "the money from this job is better" (yes, but is the job fun and interesting?) or "the house is so big and so cheap" (yes, but is is beautiful and homely?)
You may need to make a harmony between the logical mind and the unconscious mind. Or you may simply need the courage and trust to follow the truth of the unconscious! After all, if these two voices were the same, they were be no need for hypnotherapy. If you can't resolve the gap (or can't find the inner voice), call me.
Don’t be in a hurry – don’t expect these exercises to output an answer in a click, mechanically. Decisions take time. Do the exercises but don't intend make a decision on the spot. Let it all simmer until the answer pops out.
If you like, do first do a self-hypnosis exercise such as this. But its not strictly necessary, just take a relaxed time out to do the exercises.
Look back at previous decisions and choices. Ideally, take ones similar to the one you now have to make, if there have been such. What were you needing at that time? Think about it for a while and write down a good few different needs you had then. Do you have those needs now? Probably, yes. If so, which of the choices in front of you now best meets those needs?
First: sit for five or ten minutes and remember moments you have felt loving to yourself or others. Take your time to clearly and explicitly remember several such moments (big or small, in any context) until you clearly feel again the flavour of being in your heart. Don’t rush this step. Take up to ten minutes or more to contact that loving feeling again right now.
Second: now think of the choice in front of you – to do something, to say something, to buy something; to change your job or profession; to travel, or to live in a different place; to enter or deepen a relationship with someone; to learn a new skill; etc etc etc
Ask yourself, Will I love myself if I do or say this? Will my heart expand if I do this?
And feel your heart. If it feels good, if it expands and you sense a “Yes”, do it. If your heart does not feel good, or contracts and you sense a “No”, don’t do it.
To make it clearer, you can also ask the opposite: Will I love myself if I don’t do, or don’t say, this? Will my heart expand then?
If the answer is still unclear, take a risk and try it and then see how you feel. It is OK to make a lot of mistakes. You cannot live, love, laugh and learn without mistakes.
Take a few pieces of paper and some coloured crayons or felt-tip pens. Make drawings of yourself following each possibility, one for each choice. Set aside any pre-existing images you sit down with, and let what you draw arise in the moment. Draw in a very child-like way. Choose a colour your like, and find what that colour wants to draw. Then choose another colour. Don’t be “task-oriented.” Instead let yourself by drawn in by the colours, let the picture develop itself. The picture can be very simple and un-artistic.
Then set all the pictures out in front of you. Look at them. Which attracts you as a picture? If you hadn’t seen them before, what impression do they create? In the colours, in the vibe and energy, what does each one say about the decision? If you had to choose just one picture (forgetting what they mean and where they have come from), which one would you choose?
Having done the exercises, put them aside and get on with life. Allow a decision to emerge on its own. If it doesn't, or if you feel very divided or stuck, then give me a ring (0845-3510604 / 0117-968-7307). I have some very advanced techniques to allow a clear decision which feels good to all parts of you to emerge. I'm happy to answer questions or arrange, in Bristol or Taunton, a free, no-obligation half-hour introductory meeting.
Ever notice that 'what the hell' is always the right decision?
Marilyn Monroe
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