These confidence tips are from an appearance I made on BBC Somerset's Drive programme. Basic advice like this is only a small part of my work. It won't apply if you have really hurt, fragile self-esteem. That needs the depth hypno-analysis and emotional healing which is my speciality.
(1) Don't wait to feel confident before you act confident. The whole idea "I caaaaan't do so-and-so until I first feel such-and-such" is a bottomless trap. In small ways at first, start to act confident, and the feeling of confidence follows afterwards.
(2) Tell a friend why you ARE confident. Talk to a friend and instead of sharing your fears, tell them 20 reasons who you are great.
(3) Talk to yourself like your best friend, not your worst enemy. Normally we say lots of very hopeless self-critical things to ourselves – I’m no good, I’m useless, I can’t do it. If an acquaintance talked like that to you you’d never speak to them again. Only listen to the voice that says you can. It’s quiet, but it’s there.
(4) Say things to yourself about how wonderful you are that are just outrageous – things that make you laugh:
== There’s nothing in the world I enjoy as much as public speaking
== I just love talking to my manager
== Public speaking? I can’t get enough of it!
== Public speaking? I’m the BEST!
== Public speaking is the easiest thing I know.
== I’m the man!
== I’m hot, I’m really really hot
== I’m the best there is!
(5) Old but still gold: breathe slowly, stand erect, hold your head up and hold it still. Take your time in speaking and replying. Ask for more time if you need it.
(6) Sometimes the best way to be yourself is to be someone else. Think of someone who represents total confidence to you, and imagine what they would do. Imagine they are saying a powerful sentence to themselves which makes them as confident as they are. Imagine that person standing behind you in a friendly, supportive way. Imagine you are saying that sentence to yourself, and feel the power it begins to give you. ACT AS IF you were that other person - and become them!
You were born confident.
It is your birthright.
You have only to re-claim it.
To take the first crucial step to discover or regain your confidence, give me a ring today. Andrew White 0845-3510604 / 0117-968-7307. I'm happy to answer questions or arrange, in Bristol or Taunton, a free, no-obligation half-hour introductory meeting. My approach is friendly, respectful, and very effective.
In the real journey of life, your own intuition is the only teacher.
Osho
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