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Women's sexual problems

Effective hypnotherapy-based sex therapy for women's sexual problems in Bristol, Taunton and London including problems with orgasm, vaginismus, tension around lovemaking, and unsatisfying sex

Various physical factors can cause sexual dysfunction. So if you have sexual problems, especially of a physical nature (eg painful intercourse) or a sudden change in functioning, always go and see your GP. When your GP has ruled out physical causes, come and see me.

Sexual problems are very common. They include a wide spectrum of issues and require trust and safety to explore. Many women suffer in silence rather than seek help. I fully recognise how sensitive these issues are, and I approach them respectfully in a secure and supportive way. When women do feel safe to talk about sexual matters, they find that a lot can be done, and problems are often more easily put right than they feared.

Sex is never, ever just about sex. Loving sexuality involves passion, love, tenderness, vulnerability, surrender, wildness, power and potency. It offers a rainbow of unique and vivid experiences which range from wild lust to the profoundly sacred. It touches us in our deepest inner places. So my work with sexual issues is not dry and clinical. I work respectfully with the whole person and all the human aspects which sexuality involves. I combine effective techniques including hypnotherapy, hypnoanalysis (inner child regression), solution-oriented therapy and cognitive-behavioural self-help with methods from sacred Indian tantra to help you move towards a satisfying and loving sex life in the shortest time possible.

For women, sexual problems arise from various emotional and psychological sources:

Stress or depression from external sources such as work or redundancy can reduce libido
Factors in the relationship
--- not talking about sex enough; not communicating what you need assertively
--- performance anxiety, feeling a need to "be good in bed"
--- relationship issues quite unrelated to sex can have a big impact on lovemaking
--- having a child, with all the change that brings to a relationship
--- making love is too focussed on penetration, not enough on love, closeness and slow sensuality
Causes from the past
--- shame and guilt around sex and the body. This can come from many sources, one of which is a religious attitude in childhood that sex is wrong and shameful.
--- a belief that penetration must be painful, or expecting loss of virginity to be painful
--- a feeling that the genitals are ugly, smelly or dirty
--- recovering from an abusive relationship
--- in extreme cases, rape
--- sexual abuse can of course make it very difficult to open up and feel safe with a man and may result deep feelings that sex is unsafe or defiling or painful in many other ways
--- the sexual abuse may have been indirect ie it happened to someone else in the family, and the person herself may even be unaware that the abuse happened
--- low self-esteem can affect sex in many ways
--- even if there was no sexual component whatever at the time, unhappy emotions in the family when someone is a little girl can have a profound effect on sexuality as she grows up and becomes a woman.

The resulting effects on love-making are manifold. They include: • Vaginismus, a protective spasm which prevents anything entering the vagina • Penetration anxiety, which is fear or tension around the man entering inside the vagina, and is linked with vaginismus • Dyspareunia or painful intercourse • Anorgasmia, the inability to experience orgasm, from masturbation or through intercourse or both • Dislike of sex, clinically termed sexual aversion disorder, a feeling (maybe with angry insistence) that "sex isn't for me." • Lack of libido • Dryness in younger women may be emotional • Post-coital nausea, feeling nauseous after sex • Persistent arousal ("nymphomania") • Sex addiction • Compulsive promiscuity

These are sensitive issues. I approach them in a secure, respectful and supportive way. When people do feel safe to talk about sexual matters, they find that a lot can be done, and problems are often far more easily put right than they feared. So don't suffer in silence. Give me a ring. You'll probably want to take things gently, so you are welcome to come for a free half-hour initial meeting to check that I am someone you can confide in.

To take the first step on the road to a happy and fulfilled sex life, please don't hesitate to give me a ring directly: 0845-3510604 / 0117-968-7307. I am happy to talk or arrange, in Bristol or Taunton, a free no-obligation half-hour initial meeting. My approach is friendly, respectful, and very effective.

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The man sees the woman as a goddess. The woman sees the man as a god. By joining the diamond scepter and lotus, they offer themselves to each other. There is no other worship than this.
Chandamaharosana Tantra (around 700 AD)

Women are heaven; women are dharma [truth]; and women are the highest sacrament.
Women are Buddha; women are the sangha [community]; and women are the perfection of wisdom.
Chandamaharosana Tantra (around 700 AD)

Personally, I know nothing about sex; I've always been married.
Zsa Zsa Gabor

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