More than any other problem, depression sings you the song: "Nothing will ever do any good, nothing will ever get any better." Happily, this is wrong. It is entirely possible to lift depression permanently and completely. For psychological depression, research proves talking therapies, not anti-depressants, are the best way to help. I combine several of the most effective treatments to help with depression. Solution-oriented therapy and cognitive-behavioural hypnosis are action-oriented and change your thinking patterns. Hypno-analysis and emotional healing uncover and heal the deeper emotional blocks. All together form an excellent combination with the potential to help bring a gratifying and an enormous relief. You can lift and overcome psychological depression even if long-standing and severe. You can recover your aliveness, joy, motivation and energy.
The intensity of feeling depressed varies enormously. It may be just feeling low and tearful for a period when things don't go well, or it may be a most terrible darkness which descends, a crushing, unending feeling that life can't go on. The American therapist Michael Yapko has defined depression as “when living hurts.”
Typical feelings include the following.
And all of this is way beyond the normal ups and downs of life.
If you come to recognise that "I am depressed," then take heart - modern therapy can help depression enormously. I use a combination of some of the most effective forms of therapy, solution-oriented brief therapy, hypno-psychotherapy, cognitive-behavioural hypnosis and emotional healing. These have enormous potential to help you bring back the joy, energy and motivation into your life. They can even help you cure depression of long standing. To find out how I can help, give me a call today: 0845-3510604 / 0117-968-7307. I'm happy to answer questions or arrange, in Bristol or Taunton, a free, no-obligation half-hour initial meeting.
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Even if it is severe and longstanding, it is today very possible indeed to overcome depression of psychological origin. The right talking therapy is proved by research to be highly effective to help you you get back your motivation, joy, aliveness and energy. This section explains how my combination of solution-oriented brief therapy, hypno-psychotherapy, and cognitive-behavioural hypnosis, combining emotional healing with action-oriented therapy, can help you do that.
First, something that doesn't help with depression. People who feel very down easily fall into a litany of what is wrong and why - indeed they torture themselves 24 hours a day with this gloomy depressing self-talk. Therapists term this "depressive rumination." In old-style counselling for depression, the counsellor would get sucked into this, and would join in with the depressed person and they would chew the cud together, hashing endlessly over the past to understand why things went wrong. This is useless. Sure, things went wrong. But depression results from being out of contact with life. Putting energy into analysing why, why, why only further reduces the energy available for actual living. It makes things worse, not better.
Seeing this, many modern therapies for depression, such as CBT (cognitive-behavioural therapy) pointedly avoid all talk of the past, all enquiry into the client’s inner emotional world. This is equally wrong. They have thrown out the baby with the bath water. Within a strong framework of future-focused action to get your needs met, and introduced at the right time in that process, it is emotional healing which is the key for helping depression to lift. (See also: my critique of CBT and whether CBT is really "the evidence based" therapy)
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The thing that really gives help with depression is action. Action is the enemy which depression fears above all others. Depression is a slumped, collapsed, inward state in which the person lives in their heads instead of in their bodies, and lives in their toxic imaginings rather than engaging the real world head-on. Action breaks free of that, and that is why the depression monster always says "nothing will work."
The depression monster tells people that action won’t work exactly because action is what the monster fears most. The key remedy is to start to do even tiny things which are enjoyable - and then if there are big things to face up to, then start to face them.
To put the same thing differently, a depressed person is in many ways addicted to saying to themselves things like "Nothing will ever go right," "I know I won't enjoy it," "There's no point in anything." The person thinks these things are true, and feels that as a consequence of these "truths," is it inevitable to feel depressed. Actually, it's the other way round: these are very depressing things to say you oneself. Repeating them in your head over and over is a toxic negative self-hypnosis: if you say over and over "there is no hope," then of course you will feel hopeless. And it is wierdly addictive to say things like this to yourself. As you break the addiction to saying them, the depression starts to clear.
Typically, depression zeros in on people who either have very negative core beliefs ("I'm no good") or who attribute very negative meanings to situations ("If I lose this job I'll never work again.") . Again, these thoughts and meaning typically carry a strong sense of unquestionable truth: "this is how things are and I can't change it." Hypnotherapy allows the person to step right past these beliefs and meanings and discover their own intrinsic treasury of positive and life-affirming beliefs and understanding, and to re-programme the mind positively.
The therapy that really offers help with depression involves:
No matter how long you have been depressed, if you would like to take the first step with the potential of reclaiming your vitality, energy and enjoyment of life, then give me a ring: 0845-3510604 / 0117-968-7307. Please don't be shy, I'm happy to answer questions or arrange, in Bristol or Taunton, a free, no-obligation half-hour initial meeting.
The depressive spiral is what happens when a person turns away from life. That can be inner life as well as outer life. For example, one common cause of depression is stuck grief.
Let’s say that a woman’s husband dies. And she loved him very much, and she’s just so sad to be without him. If she surrenders to her grief, a paroxysm of bitter pain will seize her. It will feel like her heart is being torn apart. But it is only short-lived: the peak of grief only lasts for a few minutes. And she might feel that peak on just a handful of occasions. And then, while still keeping a place for him in her heart, she can get on with her life.
But maybe she can’t or won’t feel that grief. Then she is turning away from an essential part of her aliveness - her grief. The grief is painful, but it is also a nourishment. Only feeling the grief can give her the gift of a fresh start and a bright future. Without feeling it, she is likely to become depressed. [Stuck grief can manifest in other ways too. Also. stuck grief has an opposite: endless grief, unending tears. This means that there is some other underlying emotion, perhaps guilt or anger, which the person does not acknowledge to themselves.]
A key step in her healing process will be, at the right time, to face the fact that her husband is dead. She may weep bitterly, and it may look for a moment as if the depression is worse. But it is not. Authentic pain is part of our aliveness; when you feel it you are alive, not depressed. These are not tears of misery and hopelessness, these are healing tears. This is not understanding, insight, rumination or analysis. It is a courageous step to face reality. It looks as if it is focused on the past, but it is not. It is a strong action, overdue but entirely in the present: the action of saying good-bye so that life can move on.
The un-acknowledged emotion doesn't have to be grief. It could be anything at all. Depression is also commonly caused by anger which can't be expressed outwards and then gets turned inwards towards the person's own self. (More information: causes of depression)
These wounds often originate in childhood. Inner child healing (ie hypno-psychotherapy) can be a key tool in therapy for depression.
Fighting depression and winning is entirely possible. The right type of talking therapy WORKS. My combination of life-dynamic counselling, hypno-psychotherapy and action-oriented CBT-style self help can help you to effectively restore your energy, motivation and enjoyment. To make an appointment and take the first step to get your life life back, give me a ring: 0845-3510604 / 0117-968-7307. Please don't be shy, I'm happy to answer questions or arrange, in Bristol or Taunton, a free, no-obligation half-hour initial meeting. My approach is friendly, respectful, and very effective.
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