In everyday situations, which of these is you - confident and full of self-belief (column on the left in the table below) or shrinking and self-doubting (on the right)? If you're not as socially confident as you'd like, there is so much you can do to change that and achieve your goals with hypnotherapy, hypnosis and life-dynamic counselling.
For each item of this confidence quiz, rate yourself +1 or +2 if you fit in with the description on the left "somewhat", or "very much". And similarly rate yourself -1, -2 if you fit in with the right hand item. Score zero if you are in the middle.
So your score can range from +40 (supersociallyconfident) through 0 (half confident, half timid) to -40 (completely unconfident and timid.) If your score is less than around +20 your confidence could be greater and if it is negative then you are on balance quite unconfident.
But people can be confident in some areas and not in others, so in many ways a better way to score the test is to say: "on a scale from 1 to ten, how satisfied am I with my confidence?"
And if you are less than ten, then why not do something about it? Life CAN change and you CAN feel calm and confident in social situations. To find out how I can help you towards that, just give me a ring. Andrew White 0845-3510604 / 0117-968-7307
Confident |
Unconfident |
If by accident you're dressed wrong for a social occasion, you carry it off without discomfort or comment. |
If you turn up to an occasion in the wrong clothes, you'd just die. |
You enjoy giving presentation or speeches |
You dread giving presentations or speeches |
On a scale from one to ten, you are a ten. |
On a scale from one to ten, you are a zero. |
You can easily name three qualities you really like about yourself, and tell those to someone. |
You either can't think of your excellent qualities OR you couldn't talk about yourself like that. |
You don't care what clothes you wear, because you feel that if you wear something, it must be OK. |
You keep in touch with fashion and wear clothes to fit in with the others OR you feel you could never look attractive. |
You don't care what car you drive, as long as it works. |
How other people will rate it strongly determines the car you choose. |
In company, you can hold centre stage and tell a joke well. |
You like jokes, but rarely tell one in case people don't laugh. |
If you have to get the attention of a whole room filled with people, you can do so readily. It is easy for you to call for the waiter across a restaurant. |
You’d be afraid that if you say “listen everybody”, they’d mostly ignore you. |
At a party, you mingle and make new friends easily |
At a party, you tend to hold back on the sidelines and find it hard to strike up a conversation with someone. |
If you want something for yourself, you ask for it. |
If you put yourself first, you feel guilty - it's wrong to put yourself first. |
When people ask you for things, you can easily say No. |
If someone asks you to do something for them, you always say Yes, no matter how much you want to say No. |
If someone is irritating or offending you, you ask them to stop. |
You put up with irritations rather than be a bother to others or risk a rebuff. |
In a train, you would chat up an attractive stranger sitting opposite. |
Sitting opposite an attractive stranger on a train, you'd hope for them to start a conversation, but you wouldn’t start one. |
If on an empty street in the evening, you meet a policeman walking towards you, you volunteer him a cheery "Good night!" |
You ignore the policeman or mutter politely. |
If your opinion differs from those around you, you can state it in disagreement with all, and defend it against challenge. |
If your opinion differs from others, you keep quiet about it. Maybe, you always look to the crowd to form your opinions. |
Sexually and romantically, you make a move for the people you are most attracted to. |
Sexually and romantically, you don't have the nerve to approach the people you'd really like to. |
In a shop, if you buy only a newspaper and the people in front all have stacked baskets, you can easily walk to the front of the queue and request to go first. |
In a long queue with a small purchase, you'd wait in line rather than ask for special treatment. |
At work, you almost look forward to assessment interviews. You can also give an assessment interview easily. |
At work, you dread both giving and receiving assessment interviews. |
If you own a very nice car, you don't mind at all if it is messy inside. |
You keep your car very clean inside so people don’t look down on you. |
You thrive on new and different situations and experiences. |
You much prefer the familiar and stay inside your comfort zone. |
Life is a daring adventure or it is nothing at all.
Helen Keller
To arrange an appointment, or for more information, ring and speak to me direct. Clinics for hypnotherapy & counselling in Clifton, Bristol, Avon BS9 1JE and in Taunton, Somerset, TA2 7BZ
0845 351 0604 / 0117-968-7307
Copyright © 1995-2008 Andrew White All rights reserved
Designed by Love Your Business, re-engineered by CWD