How to transform fertility and IVF success rates
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A Milton Erickson anecdote about a couple who couldn't conceive
There's increasingly solid evidence that counselling, hypnotherapy and cognitive therapy (CBT) can be powerfully effective with fertility problems.
In one study in the Journal of Fertility and Sterility (April 2000), of 148 women experiencing infertility who received psychological help, 55 percent became fertile and conceived within 6 months and actually delivered babies as did 54 percent of those participating in a support group. In the group that received no psychological help, only 20 percent conceived and gave birth. [Further impressive evidence, including a study of women who had actually stopped ovulating, many of whom became pregnant.]
Your baby wants to be born in a place utterly safe, secure, loving and protected. It is not surprising that nature guards against a baby being born where there is tension or anxiety present around the very moment of conceiving. I offer three levels of help, from the simplest to the most complex:
- Simply learing how to relax deeply, such as via self-hypnosis, is so powerful that on its own it can be extremely effective in aiding conception and IVF (see research below).
- Continuing life stress and anxiety, or attitudes such as perfectionism, can get in the way of fertility.There is a close relationship between levels of stress hormones and reproductive hormones. Metaphorically, it is as if the uterus thinks "Times are hard. This isn't the moment to give birth" and becomes infertile until things improve. I teach emotional coaching methods to make friends with negative thoughts and feelings and transform them into positive thoughts and life-affirming attitudes.
- Sometimes, there may be deeply unconscious issues getting in the way of conception. These benefit enormously from hypno-analysis to uncover and resolve the hidden factors.
- There may simply be worry about whether conception will happen, and this tension turns into a self-fulfilling prophecy that it won't.
- The mother-to-be might previously have had bad experiences with men and her subconscious mind might wonder "is this finally the right man?" even when her heart knows he is
- Sometimes a woman may feel deep inside that "I'm only a little girl myself, I'm not grown up enough to have a baby."
- Having a baby is a big life-transition. Parts of the subconscious mind may have objections or fears, whether of loss of career opportunities or of freedom to go out clubbing. Hypnotherapy has an exceptional ability to bring harmony and resolution to such hidden (and maybe very disturbing) fears.
- If a woman's mother had a difficult birth, perhaps say of the woman's younger sibling, that may have left an unconscious imprint that "childbirth is a terrible thing", with a corresponding unconscious reluctance to conceive.
- A couple may make so much effort to conceive that sex becomes joyless. [For a striking example of curing this situation, see the Milton Erickson story below on this page.] Think of it like this: if you were a very sensitive unborn soul, would you be attracted to parents where the sex seemed to be a mechanical duty? Wouldn't you want to be born into a relationship where sex is joyful? I am fully aware that this isn't a "logical" way of seeing things, but the unconscious mind is far from logical.
- There may have been trauma from sexual abuse.
- ... and many other things. Each person is unique.
While provenly effective, hypnotherapy
and related emotional coaching techniques are not a cure-all. I always aim to be both inspiring, and also realistic and honest. Perhaps, conception is not possible. Then the work involves working throught the frustation, disappointment and grief and finding the place of peace and renewed joyfulness beyond.
To take the first step on the road to fertility and conception, give me a ring directly: 0845-3510604 / 0117-968-7307. I am happy toa talk.
The couple who couldn't conceive:
a Milton Erickson anecdote
The American psychiatrist Milton Erickson was the towering figure in the development of modern hypnotherapy in the last century. He was renowned for creating unique methods of therapy insightfully matched to the unique personality of his patients. The following story is a striking example of the very direct connection between thoughts, feelings, and fertility. The events occurred in the 1940s; in reading the story, remember that in addition to the respect which Erickson reputation commanded, all doctors were then still regarded with a God-like awe.
A couple came to Erickson because they couldn't conceive. They had been married for three years. Each was a college lecturer, very articulate and very, very proper. In stilted terms, they explained their intense, but unsuccessful, desire to produce children. Each described having 'marital union' twice daily and four times daily on weekends, 'with full physiological concomitants to fulfill our philoprogenitive desires.' They spoke only in polysyllabic words, and whenever possible used clinical medical terms.
After listening to their account for some time, Erickson said he believed that they could be cured by shock therapy. He told them there was physical shock therapy and psychological shock therapy and they needed psychological shock therapy. He left them alone to deliberate whether or not they wanted shock therapy. When he returned, they responded that they were prepared.
He instructed them that following their shock, they were to remain silent all the way home. He then had them grasp the arms of the chair for the shock, and said to them:
"You have been engaged in marital union with full physiological concomitants to fulfill your philoprogenitive desires. Now, why in hell don't you fuck for fun, and pray to the devil she isn't knocked up for at least three months. Now please leave."
Three months later, the wife was expecting.
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To take the first step to explore how hypnotherapy might help you conceive, just give me a ring. I'm happy to talk. 0845-3510604 / 0117-968-7307.
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