Below on this page: Is couples counselling right for me?
A huge proportion of divorces and relationship breakups are completely un-necessary. My experience is that many couples who split up have simply never attempted the practical steps, sometimes simple ones, which could have healed their relationship.
I always aim to offer "hope without hype". And I am realistic. Of course, some relationships can't be saved, some indeed are toxic and are best escaped from. Others end naturally as partners evolve in different directions, and sometimes you just marry the wrong person. But very many couples drown within reach of the shore simply because they don't know how to swim.
A crisis, for example:
... doesn't have to be a disaster. Every one of these situation can potentially be looked back on as a turning point for the better. Every one can potentially be, not the beginning of the end of the relationship, but the end of the beginning, the time when you really got to know each other, the time when intimacy and connection really started.
For in fact, differences, pain, hurt and anger are not the enemies of love. They can be the very doorway to intimacy. Happy couples don't necessarily have fewer problems. What they do have is mastery of the skills and the understandings to deal with them.
Actually, the answer to relationship problems is always the same: always, love. But you don't start with love for the other person! - you start with love for yourself. The foundation is to love and trust and respect yourself.
I work with singles or one partner or both. When I work with couples together, sometimes I suggest that one or both partners come for some individual work.
Don't wait for a crisis! With individual work, a crisis can actually be good, because then the person is open to really being different. But with relationships, it's better that one partner comes when things are "a bit iffy", than that both partners come when hurt has piled on top of hurt and things are heading towards divorce. I help you reconnect with love, trust, confidence, sexual pleasure, assertion, independence and joy.
I'll repeat - it's better not to wait for a crisis, To take the first step, give me a ring and leave a message (24 hours.) I'll call you back. 0845-3510604 / 0117-955-0490. I work with singles or with one or both partners in the marriage or relationship. I'm happy to answer questions or arrange, in Bristol or Taunton, a free, no-obligation half-hour introductory meeting.
I work with singles or one partner or both. Even if one partner won't come, progress is still possible. Sometimes it's actually better to see each partner individually first. Either way, DON'T WAIT FOR THE CRISIS. Give me a ring today (0845-3510604 / 0117-955-0490) and explore what you can do. Leave a message, I'll call you back. I'm happy to answer questions or arrange, in Bristol or Taunton, a free, no-obligation half-hour introductory meeting.
Love is the way messengers from the mystery tell us things.
Hatred does not cease by hatred, but only by love; this is the eternal rule.
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