The Cinderella Law to punish parents to make them more loving
The Cinderella Law to punish parents to make them more loving

By Andrew White.

If parents are seriously emotionally abusive or neglectful to their children, the children can be removed from the family by social workers. Reports suggest the government is considering a “Cinderella law” to make such abusive neglect into a criminal offence. What a truly foolish idea. Continue reading

Is this the mouth of the River Frome?
Is this the mouth of the River Frome?

Is this the mouth of the River Frome?

Bristol’s hidden rivers.

By Andrew White.

The unconscious mind works like this, that sometimes we find ourselves doing things that we didn’t choose or decide to do. To my absolute surprise, in the last couple of months I’ve become fascinated by the history of Bristol’s harbour. It’s amazing 1800s engineering from the days when a community, a city, could create their own future with their own hands by their own vision and their own bold action. Continue reading

Different clients, different needs: healing trauma
Different clients, different needs: healing trauma

Different clients have different needs: How do you heal trauma? (1)

By Andrew White. Different clients needs different types of healing. And one given client may need very different healing at different stages of the work. It’s very important not to impose the same therapy on everyone.

A while I had two clients one morning who illustrated that very clearly.

Harry [all case histories are anonymised] has a very traumatising childhood. Continue reading

Hard times, healing times: a Systemic Constellation resource list
Hard times, healing times: a Systemic Constellation resource list

Hard and healing experiences: a Systemic Constellation resource list

This is a growing post for resources which illuminate the understandings of Systemic Constellations work (aka Family Constellation Therapy) of how trauma crosses generations and shapes lives, and how healing is possible. Some are uplifting tales of healing and reconciliation with extreme perpetrators. Others are painful stories of families shaped by torture, totalitarianism and other extreme events. These shine light in dark places but don’t necessarily have happy endings. Continue reading

Therapy advertising – big bold claims (1)
Therapy advertising – big bold claims (1)

Therapy advertising – big bold claims (1)

I really sympathise with anyone trying to choose a therapist.  So many things that could go wrong – you could waste your money, look a fool, and get no better. And such a  deep longing for everything to go right,  for connection, self-respect and freedom from fear. But to get those, you’ve got all those advertisements to choose between, all those therapies with conflicting claims to sort out.

So before you can get help, you need help in getting help. That’s this blog! Continue reading

Love, meditation, and what this blog is for
Love, meditation, and what this blog is for

Love, meditation, and what this blog is for

Most people long for love. Many live their whole lives seeking but never finding it.

Very few people long for meditation.

Yet love and meditation are integrally one. When we rest deeply inside ourselves, love arises – from within. When we find a love partner outside ourselves, challenges will arise which can only be resolved within ourselves. Continue reading

Radical meditation – (3) Further Active Meditations
Radical meditation – (3) Further Active Meditations

Radical meditation – (3) Further Active Meditations

The essence of all meditation is to sit silently, and allow thoughts, feelings, moods, and sensations  to flow through the inner sky of the consciousness without concern.  As experiences come to feel more and more peripheral, we become more and more aware of the consciousness which is aware of the experiences; this consciousness is our inner nature. Continue reading