If parents are seriously emotionally abusive or neglectful to their children, the children can be removed from the family by social workers. Reports suggest the government is considering a “Cinderella law” to make such abusive neglect into a criminal offence. What a truly foolish idea. Continue reading
Is this the mouth of the River Frome?
Bristol’s hidden rivers.
By Andrew White.
The unconscious mind works like this, that sometimes we find ourselves doing things that we didn’t choose or decide to do. To my absolute surprise, in the last couple of months I’ve become fascinated by the history of Bristol’s harbour. It’s amazing 1800s engineering from the days when a community, a city, could create their own future with their own hands by their own vision and their own bold action. Continue reading
Different clients have different needs: How do you heal trauma? (1)
By Andrew White. Different clients needs different types of healing. And one given client may need very different healing at different stages of the work. It’s very important not to impose the same therapy on everyone.
A while I had two clients one morning who illustrated that very clearly.
Harry [all case histories are anonymised] has a very traumatising childhood. Continue reading
Hard and healing experiences: a Systemic Constellation resource list
This is a growing post for resources which illuminate the understandings of Systemic Constellations work (aka Family Constellation Therapy) of how trauma crosses generations and shapes lives, and how healing is possible. Some are uplifting tales of healing and reconciliation with extreme perpetrators. Others are painful stories of families shaped by torture, totalitarianism and other extreme events. These shine light in dark places but don’t necessarily have happy endings. Continue reading
Quit smoking hypnosis? – Don’t believe those claims!
Hypnosis is an excellent method of quitting smoking. But the success varies with the hypnosis method between 4% and more than 80%. This post is about the tricky and downright dishonest claims for success in quit-smoking hypnosis. Continue reading
Myths about meditation (1) – it requires sitting still
This is one of the most common myths about meditation. People think that meditation essentially consists of sitting still, ideally in the buddha posture, unmoving.
Not in the slightest is this true! Continue reading
Therapy advertising – big bold claims (1)
I really sympathise with anyone trying to choose a therapist. So many things that could go wrong – you could waste your money, look a fool, and get no better. And such a deep longing for everything to go right, for connection, self-respect and freedom from fear. But to get those, you’ve got all those advertisements to choose between, all those therapies with conflicting claims to sort out.
So before you can get help, you need help in getting help. That’s this blog! Continue reading
Therapy advertising – big, bold claims (2)
More examples of psychotherapy websites making claims which are great marketing but not great therapy – not quite lies, but quite misleading. Continue reading
Love, meditation, and what this blog is for
Most people long for love. Many live their whole lives seeking but never finding it.
Very few people long for meditation.
Yet love and meditation are integrally one. When we rest deeply inside ourselves, love arises – from within. When we find a love partner outside ourselves, challenges will arise which can only be resolved within ourselves. Continue reading
Radical meditation – (3) Further Active Meditations
The essence of all meditation is to sit silently, and allow thoughts, feelings, moods, and sensations to flow through the inner sky of the consciousness without concern. As experiences come to feel more and more peripheral, we become more and more aware of the consciousness which is aware of the experiences; this consciousness is our inner nature. Continue reading