I’m now accepting Bristol Pounds
I’m now accepting Bristol Pounds

I’m now accepting Bristol Pounds. For those outside the Bristol area, the Bristol Pound is a growing local currency (bristolpound.org) which is so solidly-backed that you can use it to pay bills to the local council.

For the next three months, ie to the end of July 2014, I have a Bristol Pounds Introductory Sale: only 40 Bristol Pounds per hour for sessions ending by 5:00 pm Monday – Friday.

More and more I’m looking for ways that my work can contribute in some small way to creating a better future. No individual is ever responsible for the emotional issues that bring them to do personal development work such as mine. We are all part of the wider whole which surrounds us, and the problems we have are our inheritance, not our creation. Of course what you do with that inheritance is entirely your responsibility and your creation! In other words, how you play the cards is up to you. But the hand you are dealt comes from thousands of years of human stupidity, poverty and violence.

The work I do with individuals gives me great joy. Yet at the end of the day, it’s a bit like being a medic on a battlefield. It’s wonderful to bring people back to health, but better they had never been hurt in the first place It’s better they were never dealt a difficult hand of cards. So I’m looking for ways that the skills and experience I have can contribute to the slowly but steadily rising tide of social change. How, where – very little idea as yet. Accepting Bristol Pounds is one tiny step in a good direction.

The Cinderella Law to punish parents to make them more loving
The Cinderella Law to punish parents to make them more loving

By Andrew White.

If parents are seriously emotionally abusive or neglectful to their children, the children can be removed from the family by social workers. Reports suggest the government is considering a “Cinderella law” to make such abusive neglect into a criminal offence. What a truly foolish idea. Continue reading

Is this the mouth of the River Frome?
Is this the mouth of the River Frome?

Is this the mouth of the River Frome?

Bristol’s hidden rivers.

By Andrew White.

The unconscious mind works like this, that sometimes we find ourselves doing things that we didn’t choose or decide to do. To my absolute surprise, in the last couple of months I’ve become fascinated by the history of Bristol’s harbour. It’s amazing 1800s engineering from the days when a community, a city, could create their own future with their own hands by their own vision and their own bold action. Continue reading

Different clients, different needs: healing trauma
Different clients, different needs: healing trauma

Different clients have different needs: How do you heal trauma? (1)

By Andrew White. Different clients needs different types of healing. And one given client may need very different healing at different stages of the work. It’s very important not to impose the same therapy on everyone.

A while I had two clients one morning who illustrated that very clearly.

Harry [all case histories are anonymised] has a very traumatising childhood. Continue reading

Hard times, healing times: a Systemic Constellation resource list
Hard times, healing times: a Systemic Constellation resource list

Hard and healing experiences: a Systemic Constellation resource list

This is a growing post for resources which illuminate the understandings of Systemic Constellations work (aka Family Constellation Therapy) of how trauma crosses generations and shapes lives, and how healing is possible. Some are uplifting tales of healing and reconciliation with extreme perpetrators. Others are painful stories of families shaped by torture, totalitarianism and other extreme events. These shine light in dark places but don’t necessarily have happy endings. Continue reading

Therapy advertising – big bold claims (1)
Therapy advertising – big bold claims (1)

Therapy advertising – big bold claims (1)

I really sympathise with anyone trying to choose a therapist.  So many things that could go wrong – you could waste your money, look a fool, and get no better. And such a  deep longing for everything to go right,  for connection, self-respect and freedom from fear. But to get those, you’ve got all those advertisements to choose between, all those therapies with conflicting claims to sort out.

So before you can get help, you need help in getting help. That’s this blog! Continue reading

Love, meditation, and what this blog is for
Love, meditation, and what this blog is for

Love, meditation, and what this blog is for

Most people long for love. Many live their whole lives seeking but never finding it.

Very few people long for meditation.

Yet love and meditation are integrally one. When we rest deeply inside ourselves, love arises – from within. When we find a love partner outside ourselves, challenges will arise which can only be resolved within ourselves. Continue reading